I've had clients admit to me before that they were too embarrassed to come see me because while they had been motivated to make changes when they left my office, it was only a matter of days before they were right back where they had started. I can reassure you I have never chastised a client for not making changes and I never take it personally. My job is to be there to support someone when they are improving their health and help them along when things aren't going so well.
Change is tough, but it's not impossible. Through my own observations I can tell you that one of the reasons people fail to make change is they get stuck on the idea that if they can't do it all....what's the point?
The point is that very few of us can't do it all. For example, many people find meal plans desirable because it's a concrete step by step set of instructions on how to achieve their goals. Even though they get results, more often than not, the results are short lived. But why?
Because the meal plan doesn't teach you any long term skills.
The meal plan doesn't guide you on how to curb your cravings.
The meal plan doesn't show you what to do around the holidays or vacation time.
And most importantly: it doesn't give you a clue what to do once you have reached your goals and want to go off the plan.
When you change your lifestyle, you are doing just that: changing your life.
Habits you have developed over weeks, years and decades...How can you honestly expect yourself to just turn your whole life upside down and do everything the way you are 'supposed to do it'?
If you want lasting results here are a couple of key things to remember:
1) Almost no one gets it right the first time. Everyone achieves their goals differently so it may take a few runs at it before you find the method that works for you. For example, most people take at least 5 attempts at smoking before they quit.
2) To make changes permanent, you have to focus on a couple of small changes at a time. If you focus on too many at once, how are you going to keep track of everything?
3) Don't focus on what you didn't do and give up. Focus on what changes you have made and how you are moving forward and keep building on that.
No one achieves what they want in life by hating themselves for failing. We can only achieve our goals when we learn from our mistakes and keep moving forward.